Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Yep, we do currently occupy that role many times over. In fact, this will be little hombre numero cinco for their family. (No, they are not of Latino heritage, but nearly as pasty white as we are. That one just popped into my head, so I decided to roll with it.)
Anyhoo, we are super excited for them. Especially since this was a planned pregnancy. Yes, I said planned. But hearing about it really got us thinking. We are planning on a second child of our own - more on that in a later post - and we can kinda sorta imagine what it would be like managing a third child. But five? That's Cave Osborne territory right there. All in! Or alternatively known as "The Crazy Train". Okay, just kidding JCO.
There is no way we, or anyone living close by us here in Seattle that we know for that matter, could pull off raising five kids. Because It's too darn expensive here.
In fact, we know a lot of couples with kids. A LOT. And we tried to think of everyone we knew who had more than just two kids. We literally sat there stumped for a few seconds. Finally, we did come up with one or two local families with a third child including neighbors down the block with a stay at home dad. But the vast majority of our peers had rounded out their families with just the second child.
I was actually amazed at how few people we knew had three or more kids. I had heard an NPR story once a couple of years ago about how the average family size in the US has been shrinking in recent years, necessitating immigration to keep the economy running. I just looked it up and shockingly in 2010 it was 2.59. Meaning on average families average less than one child now. Yes, there are a lot of families without kids who bring that number down, but by comparison the average family size was 3.7 in the late 1950's.
As I said, we are planning to add to the LIAYF family in the near future. But chances are pretty small that at our age we will consider adding a third child to the mix, much less a fourth or even fifth. The laundry alone would reduce me to a shell of my former self.
We will undoubtedly be delighted, come December, to get our first glance at Lukas' eighth cousin, a boy who will add to the abundance of love already in his household. But, we'll also probably imagine the cost and workload involved in raising that child, and secretly be relieved that those are not our responsibilities.
How about you reader? How many kids can your psyche, and budget handle?
Posted by James (SeattleDad) at 4:00 AM